When I had my daughter, the transition from maidenhood to motherhood was a difficult one. I missed aspects of the life I led when I was more spontaneous and carefree. I suddenly felt a lot of pressure to become a certain sort of person and to present myself a certain sort of way. The hours I used to spend in deep reflection and artistic expression were consumed with the mundane, menial tasks of caring for a home, and moving from full-time employment to staying at home full-time left me with a sense of disconnect in terms of how I “fit in” to the world.
Like many others, I felt very lonely at this time. In the midst of redefining who I was, I discovered spiritual practice and tarot, and I can safely say that embracing both helped me finally integrate my understanding of who I was and who I actually was. I realized that I could be a mother and still be myself, and through reflecting on my own childhood and upbringing (and working through some of the difficult emotions that that reflection gave rise to), I became centered, aware, and empowered in a way I had never been before.
What is Tarot?
Tarot, simply put, is a system expressed through seventy-eight archetypes represented through a deck of cards. Each card represents one archetype, and each archetype represents an element of the human experience. By drawing cards within the structure of a tarot spread that’s designed to answer a question or speak to a concern, the querent (the person who’s being read for) works through thoughts and emotions in order to gain clarity. The reader facilitates this dialogue through her understanding of the archetypes and how they manifest in a person’s life. Depending on the readers’ approach to tarot, the process varies. Some readers read divinatorially—they seek to predict the future through interpreting the cards. This method is the one traditionally associated with tarot; however, my approach seeks to use tarot as a tool for healing and self-reflection. The reading is much more focused on unpacking the “here and now.” The reader and the querent work with the tarot and one another to explore the multiple facets of a problem or concern and to explore how the facets are interrelated. A tarot reading helps to create a visual representation of what a querent is facing or going through, and likewise offers guidance and actionable advice to help the querent navigate these obstacles successfully.
How Readings Work
What each reading addresses is directly determined by the area(s) of focus the querent wishes to explore. However, there are four elements that nearly every reading addresses:
- The current psycho-spiritual state of the querent.
- The obstacles that the querent is facing.
- Actionable advice/insight/guidance to help work through or overcome the obstacles.
- Messages of support and empowerment.
Examples of how this structure appears in a spread:
- Where are the seeds of my doubt? What do they reveal about my insecurities? (psycho-spiritual state/obstacles)
- Where do I sustain the greatest losses when I allow my fears to take control? (obstacles)
- What is the core of my disbelief? What prevents me from holding space for my intuition? (psycho-spiritual state/obstacles)
- What actionable steps can I take to move beyond negative feedback loops and into the seat of my power? (actionable advice)
- What actionable steps can I take to nurture self-love and self-belief? What can I do to convince myself that I’m worthy of the life I desire? (actionable advice)
- Kick-ass oracle to make you feel like a rockstar. (Message of empowerment)
The main objective of a tarot reading is to empower the querent to take action that speaks to her highest good. It’s to help her cultivate her self-love and to potentially transform her understanding of a situation so she becomes the agent of change in her life. In short, it aims to help her transition from a psycho-spiritual state of confusion and powerlessness to one of clarity and empowerment.
What Does a Tarot Reading With Me Look Like?
First, I hold space for my querent as they convey to me what they’ve been feeling, experiencing, and thinking about. Throughout this process, I may take notes to record the main obstacles and concerns the querent is dealing with. I may also repeat back some of what the querent said to me in order to clarify.
Based off of this information, I will either design a three-card or a six-card spread (depending on how long the session is) or I will use an original spread that I previously designed if it’s relevant. I will then begin providing my interpretation, pausing from time to time to field questions or to engage in dialogue relevant to the query. Depending on the querent, the reading will be more “professorial” (me saying much and the querent saying little) or more dynamic (the querent presenting themselves as an active, vocal participant in the reading). I do not consider myself a representational reader—someone who presents the images on the cards and lets the querent determine their meaning and the direction of the reading. I more so provide my assessment of the situation by speaking to the archetypes and how they relate to what the querent is going through.
What are my Areas of Focus?
Personal Transition and Evolution
Empowerment and Creativity
Integration for Authentic Living
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